have it out

/hæv ɪt aʊt/
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A direct, often heated conversation that brings a disagreement into the open so it can be settled.

Examples

  • The committee should meet privately and have it out.
  • After weeks of silence, the roommates finally had it out.
  • They had it out after practice and shook hands afterward.
  • She was ready to have it out over the broken promise.
  • I need to have it out with him before this resentment gets worse.

Similar words

clear the air
thrash it out
settle the matter
talk it out
iron it out
hash it out

Meanings

Settle a dispute openly

conflict
informal
To bring a disagreement into direct conversation, often with anger or tension, so the matter can be settled.

Examples

  • After weeks of silence, the roommates finally had it out.
  • I need to have it out with him before this resentment gets worse.
  • The committee should meet privately and have it out.
  • She was ready to have it out over the broken promise.
  • They had it out after practice and shook hands afterward.

Similar words

Etymology

The exact origin is not firmly explained by the sources. Dictionary.com records early nineteenth-century use, including Dickens's Nicholas Nickleby in 1839.

FAQ

What does have it out mean?

Have it out means to talk about a disagreement openly and directly so it can be settled.

Is have it out always angry?

Have it out often suggests anger or tension, but the main idea is frank discussion that brings the conflict into the open.

What preposition follows have it out?

Use with for the person, as in have it out with her, and about or over for the issue.

Can have it out mean a normal conversation?

No. Have it out is for a dispute, grievance, or hard confrontation, not a casual chat.

When was have it out first recorded?

Dictionary.com places the idiom in early nineteenth-century English and cites Dickens's Nicholas Nickleby from 1839.

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